The principles of an inter-abled friendship are similar to any great friendship, they can take a bit more work depending on your disability journey. Yet there can be differences, subtle and more obvious. Brought on by cultural ableist attitudes and general ignorance of what disability means - especially as there are so many disabilities.

For better, for worse. For richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health…

I said this to Leanne more than 30 years ago; I meant it then and I mean it now. Plenty of us have said these words, and I bet few of us really thought about what they meant. Few of us really could.

Leanne asked me to write an article for her, providing some insights and perspectives from a carers point of view, so here it is, with the facts, the feelings; the dark and the light.